My 12-year-old daughter came across a deception several times. I notice a hypocrisy behind her, manipulations in terms of money. For example, when she needs something-a gadget, a gift-she is very cheerful and kind. And when it is not necessary or already bought, he immediately inflated, he can roughly answer the question ..

I just don’t trust the child anymore and do not know how to change her behavior. I don’t want a consumer attitude towards myself. How to “fix” this behavior of a child? Or you need to change the attitude towards it?

Larisa, children are extremely susceptible to the environment. If your child has found “working tools” to achieve his goals, then this happened not without the influence of the family. Almost every method, trend or habit is collected by a child from the outside.

Before rethinking their views and positions (which is also called a teenage riot), children are not specially malicious. You are talking about a consumer attitude, but this is your adult assessment. You feel that you are used for selfish purposes, for the sake of a gift. So what’s the problem?

It is important to understand that your

volume of morality and ethics is not equal to children’s. Your daughter, many categories will be available for understanding a little later, so equating the child’s consciousness to the consciousness of an adult incorrectly. You need to tell her about what you see. Find out what is the reason for this behavior, and offer other ways to solve problems and problems.

You are the person who opens this world to the child. If you no longer trust your own child, then teach him not to trust in response. Show that even the closest people can be hostile, stimulate a tendency to adapt through lies and cunning.

The main concepts and structures on which training is built, and any, is respect, love and subordination

You translate your position and teach a child. You should not scare you difficulties, because you observe the growing up of another person and you can direct, help, explain and offer different strategies and ways to satisfy his needs. While remaining those who love him, accepts and tries to understand.