“I love you” … If you want to add “still”, “it seems” to these words, or “no matter what,” then your pair needs special care and close attention. How to return to feelings the former brightness, explains the family psychologist Regina Bryte.
Relations – like everything else in our lives – work on autopilot not as good as we hope. At first glance, the couple may look quite prosperous, but it is worth a closer look – and we will see two not very happy people who do not know how to approach this topic. Let’s admit – our romantic relationship sometimes comes to a dead end.
So, it’s time to rekindle the flame of the passion that you and your partner deserve. But as? American sexologist, psychotherapist and family consultant Regina Bright offers 10 simple steps.
1. Meet happy couples
Find other safe couples with whom you can spend time – to arrange a barbecue or picnic, go camping or on the beach. Communication with other pairs will bring you new impressions and adventures.
2. Let your partner feel special
Give him or her to know that your relationship is at the very top of your list of priorities. Come up with various ways to send a signal every day: “You are the most important person for me”.
3. Listen with the intention of understanding
Learn to communicate effectively. And that means – become a good listener. Most people listen with the intention of answering. You listen with the intention of understanding.
4. Play honestly
Not always everything goes well. Sometimes consent in a pair is violated. And at such a time it is especially important to monitor your intonations, not to call a partner, not to humiliate, not to blame. Before saying something, ask yourself: “This will improve our relationship or worsen them?”And if you happen to allow a mistake, do not forget to ask for forgiveness.
5. Let your partner be yourself
Learn to take a partner in what you like, and that you don’t like. Respect your differences. Let your partner be yourself. If we are trying to make our partner be what we would like to see him, this means that we love only our own reflection.
6. Highlight time for yourself
Each of us should be alone from time to time. Highlight the day only for yourself and enjoy your own society. Go for a walk, spend the day in the spa, chase the ball, play tennis – relax to your liking.
7. Surprise your partner
Write on a postcard how you like to spend time with him, give him a balloon in the middle of a difficult working day, a bouquet of wildflowers or a box of exquisite chocolate, which can be eaten by watching a romantic movie. And for someone a good gift will be if you analyze the garage or restore order in the kitchen.
8. Create intimacy
Proximity means not only physical, but also emotional attachment. Choose the time to tell your partner about your spiritual and physical needs. Discuss what you can do together to satisfy them. Also distribute homework. Equally taken on household duties are equated with greater proximity.
9. Try the new one
Make cosmetic repairs in the room together or go together to prepare sushi. Violate routine, invent something new that will make your life more exciting.
10. Spend the
day together
Highlight the day in your schedule, which you will spend only together – and so that no one bothers you.
For more details see. On the Regina Bright blog on the STEPPINGSTONSCOUNSENSELSELS.Org